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Kyunki saas can also be at the receiving end -AIMPF Chandigarh launched – slideshow

Kyunki saas can also be at the receiving end AIMPF Chandigarh launched


AIMPF Chandigarh


CHANDIGARH: The word 'saas' mostly brings to mind the wicked mother-in-law (MIL), intent on making life miserable for her son's wife. Such is the impact of negative representations of MILs through popular media that even women who are harassed by their daughters-in-law do not get adequate hearing. Extending a helping hand to these mothers, All India Mother-in-Law Protection Forum (AIMPF), a non-funded and non-profit social forum, inaugurated its Chandigarh chapter on Sunday.

The AIMPF, whose headquarter is in Bangalore, was launched on September 6 last year. The Chandigarh unit would cater to the city, as well as other states of Punjab, Haryana and HP.

Coordinator for Chandigarh chapter, Manjit Puri, said: "MILs will not bear the harassment any further. They are being discriminated against, despite their generosity." Besides Puri, Suman Nayyar, Nisha and Jaswinder Kaur Saini would be looking after the city affairs through a helpline - 9569563161.

"At the end of the day, it's the MIL who gives her son and property to her daughter-in-law. And she is the one who has to face the brunt of the fallacy as she's held responsible in case the marriage does not work," Puri added. The latter's son, Lukhwinder, said: "Before our marriage, my wife, Jatinder Kaur, said she was a spinster. We later came to know that she was married not once but twice. She would pick up fights and even demanded that my mother should leave our house. After I did not agree, she vanished, only to be found at her parent's house after a week. She even threatened to commit suicide."

Another 'victim', Arun Kumar, said, "I got married in 2008. My wife soon began harassing my 60-year-old mother. She said she couldn't cook and wanted a maid. Though she returned to her parent's house, they slapped a case against us." Kumar, who had gone to England on a work visa, says the case has meant that he can't return there.

In a National Family Health Survey on 30,000 women from different parts of India, it was revealed that in the age range of 15-49, it is the mother of the woman who perpetrates more violence on her rather than her MIL.

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Wife,a mother of two, kills children to elope with paramour

प्रेमी के लिए मां ने किया अपने दो बच्चों का कत्ल






हरियाणा के जींद में एक मां ने अपने प्रेमी के लिए अपने ही 2 बच्चों को मौत के घाट उतार दिया।

जींद। हरियाणा के जींद में एक मां ने अपने प्रेमी के लिए अपने ही 2 बच्चों को मौत के घाट उतार दिया। कलयुगी मां घटना को अंजाम देने के बाद अपने प्रेमी के साथ अपने रिश्तेदारों के पास पहुंच गई जहां परिवार वालों ने दोनों को पुलिस के हवाले कर दिया।

अपने प्रेमी को पाने के लिए एक मां ने अपने 2 मासूम बच्चों को अपने ही हाथों गला घोंट कर मौत के घाट उतार दिया। खुद हत्या की बात को कबूल कर रही है बबली की आंखों में जरा भी खौफ और शर्म नहीं है। पहले तो बबली अपने प्रेमी के साथ घर से भागी और फिर अपने बच्चों को मार दिया। इसके बाद जब बबली अपने परिजनो के पास पहुंची तो उन्होंने इसे पुलिस के हवाले कर दिया।अपने ही बच्चों की हत्या के आरोप में फंसी इस मां को तो तफ्तीश के बाद सजा मिल जाएगी। लेकिन जिस तरह से इसने अपने प्रेमी को पाने के लिए अपनी ही हाथों से जिगर के टुकड़े का गला घोंट दिया उससे मां की ममता भी तार तार हो गई है।


Woman kills children to elope with her lover

JIND: A 35-year-old woman killed her two children aged three and five to elope with her lover, who happened to be her brother-in-law in Julhera village of Jind district.
She fled with her lover on August 31, and then killed the children on way near Ambala and dumped their bodies.
Haryana Police have arrested both, the woman and her brother-in-law, from a village in Patiala district of Punjab.

Delhi Govt asked to revise fee structure of amicus curiae

Delhi Govt asked to revise fee structure of amicus curiae

2010-09-05 10:20:00
Last Updated: 2010-09-05 10:28:26

New Delhi: A local court has asked the Delhi Government to revise the fee structure of the amicus curiae, who is appointed to assist the court or to render service to those who cannot afford advocates in judicial proceedings.

Additional Sessions Judge Kamini Lau expressed surprise over the scenario after being told that fee structure of amicus curiae has not been revised since 2002.

Amici curiae are appointed in courts at state expenses, generally to represent the accused who are unable to hire advocate to put forth their defence or to assist in the judicial proceedings.

The court said it was necessary to suitably reward the counsel who are appointed as amicus curiae.

"Representation through a counsel is not a mere formality that the accused be represented and it is necessary to ensure that in order to do justice proper opportunity is given to the accused to defend himself specifically in cases where the accused are unable to obtain legal assistance for the reasons of economic hardships or otherwise," the court said.

It also noted that the principle of natural justice also required that accused is properly represented in the court.

"Principles of natural justice require that no person be condemned unheard and hence the requirement to hearing the accused through his counsel. It is the duty of the State to provide such assistance and in order to ensure the quality of defence, assistance is being given to the accused persons," it said.

The court suggested the Delhi government to consider revising the pay structure of amicus curiae.

"This court is of the view that it is necessary that there should also be a suitable revision in the fee of Amicus Curiae as fixed by the Government of NCT of Delhi which has not been revised since the year 2002, and appears to have skipped their attention," the court said.

ASJ Lau also noted that the fee of the legal aid counsels has been recently enhanced by the Delhi Legal Service Authority (DLSA) while that of amicus curiae has been left untouched by the government.

The court made the observation after an amicus curiae representing an accused in a criminal case sought its direction to quantify his fees as the same has not been revised for quite some time.

The court fixed Rs 8,000 for the lawyer while directing that its order should be forwarded to the Chief Secretary and others for necessary action.

"I also deem it expedient that this fact be highlighted before the concerned authorities for necessary action at their end. I therefore direct that a copy of this order be placed before the Chief Secretary, NCT of Delhi and Principal Secretary (Law), Government of NCT of Delhi, for information and necessary action at their end," ASJ Lau said.

Domestic violence- More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals

More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals

Campaign group Parity claims assaults by wives and girlfriends are often ignored by police and media

About two in five of all victims of domestic violence are men, contradicting the widespread impression that it is almost always women who are left battered and bruised, a new report claims.

Men assaulted by their partners are often ignored by police, see their attacker go free and have far fewer refuges to flee to than women, says a study by the men's rights campaign group Parity.

The charity's analysis of statistics on domestic violence shows the number of men attacked by wives or girlfriends is much higher than thought. Its report, Domestic Violence: The Male Perspective, states: "Domestic violence is often seen as a female victim/male perpetrator problem, but the evidence demonstrates that this is a false picture."

Data from Home Office statistical bulletins and the British Crime Survey show that men made up about 40% of domestic violence victims each year between 2004-05 and 2008-09, the last year for which figures are available. In 2006-07 men made up 43.4% of all those who had suffered partner abuse in the previous year, which rose to 45.5% in 2007-08 but fell to 37.7% in 2008-09.

Similar or slightly larger numbers of men were subjected to severe force in an incident with their partner, according to the same documents. The figure stood at 48.6% in 2006-07, 48.3% the next year and 37.5% in 2008-09, Home Office statistics show.

The 2008-09 bulletin states: "More than one in four women (28%) and around one in six men (16%) had experienced domestic abuse since the age of 16. These figures are equivalent to an estimated 4.5 million female victims of domestic abuse and 2.6 million male victims."

In addition, "6% of women and 4% of men reported having experienced domestic abuse in the past year, equivalent to an estimated one million female victims of domestic abuse and 600,000 male victims".

Campaigners claim that men are often treated as "second-class victims" and that many police forces and councils do not take them seriously. "Male victims are almost invisible to the authorities such as the police, who rarely can be prevailed upon to take the man's side," said John Mays of Parity. "Their plight is largely overlooked by the media, in official reports and in government policy, for example in the provision of refuge places – 7,500 for females in England and Wales but only 60 for men."

The official figures underestimate the true number of male victims, Mays said. "Culturally it's difficult for men to bring these incidents to the attention of the authorities. Men are reluctant to say that they've been abused by women, because it's seen as unmanly and weak."

The number of women prosecuted for domestic violence rose from 1,575 in 2004-05 to 4,266 in 2008-09. "Both men and women can be victims and we know that men feel under immense pressure to keep up the pretence that everything is OK," said Alex Neil, the housing and communities minister in the Scottish parliament. "Domestic abuse against a man is just as abhorrent as when a woman is the victim."

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'Male victims are almost invisible to the authorities,' says John Mays of Parity. Photograph: Guardian

Mark Brooks of the Mankind Initiative, a helpline for victims, said: "It's a scandal that in 2010 all domestic violence victims are still not being treated equally. We reject the gendered analysis that so many in the domestic violence establishment still pursue, that the primary focus should be female victims. Each victim should be seen as an individual and helped accordingly."


Ian McNicholl, 47, has painful memories to remind him of the terror he endured when he found himself a male victim of domestic violence.

His then fiancee, Michelle Williamson, punched him in the face several times, stubbed out cigarettes on his body, lashed him with a vacuum cleaner tube, hit him with a metal bar and a hammer and even poured boiling water on to his lap. That at 6ft he was almost a foot taller than her made no difference. He still has burn marks on his left shoulder from when she used steam from an iron on him. Williamson, 35, is now serving a seven-year jail sentence for causing both actual and grievous bodily harm.

During the trial last year McNicholl told the court that, during more than a year of attacks and intimidation, he had lost his job, home and self-respect. He had been too scared to go to the police and had considered suicide. She was only arrested after two neighbours saw her punch him.

Sentencing her at Grimsby crown court last year, judge John Reddihough told Williamson: "Over the period of time you were with him you destroyed him mentally and seriously harmed him physically, leaving him with both physical and mental scars."