Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Man attempts suicide after attacks by wife, in-laws

Man attempts suicide after attacks by wife, in-laws

Yagnesh Mehta,TNN | Mar 22, 2014, 08.56 PM IST
SURAT: A resident of Ved Road in the city attempted suicide by consuming poisonous material on Wednesday following alleged torture by his wife and in-laws. Father of two sons alleged that his wife took help of goons to thrash him repetitively. Wife and her family were allegedly forcing the husband to discontinue relation with his family.
Mahesh Pardhi, married to Chandrika around 12 years ago and the couple has two sons. A jari worker, Pardhi, consumed poisonous material at his residence and attempted to kill self. He was shifted to a hospital and currently under treatment in critical condition.
He wrote a suicide not before attempting suicide in which he alleged that his wife, brother-in-law, father and mother-in-law have repeatedly tortured him during past few years. Demanding discontinuation of relation with his family Pardhi was thrashed by his wife. Pardhi was pressurised by his wife to stop meeting his mother, sister and brother. His wife thrashed him number of times, Pardhi alleged.
Pardhi alleged that his wife called goons to thrash him. His brother-in-law, mother and father-in-law thrashed him forming a group. Recently Pardhi's wife approached police after which he was threatened by her of police actions. Police are now investigating the case.

Bombay HC: Mere harassment not same as domestic cruelty

Bombay HC: Mere harassment not same as domestic cruelty
Written by Aamir Khan | Mumbai | March 25, 2014 1:23 am

Dismissing a petition by a woman who had levelled allegations of cruelty against her husband and his family members, the Bombay High Court has recently observed that mere harassment did not amount to cruelty as defined by the law on domestic cruelty unless it was done with a definite motive and an unlawful demand.
Justice Revati Mohite Dere was hearing a revision application of the 35-year-old woman who had sought criminal action against her 45-year-old brother-in-law and in-laws residing in Malad.
Earlier, on November 2, 2011, the sessions court had rejected her plea for the same, although a notice was issued to her husband.
The woman’s octogenarian father-in-law had died during the pendency of her application.
While referring to Section 498A (husband or relative of husband of a woman subjecting her to cruelty) of the Indian Penal Code (IPC), Justice Dere observed that in the entire complaint, there was no illegal demand of any kind alleged to have been made by the respondents.
“It is pertinent to note that none of the allegations as set out in the complaint against the respondent number 2 to 4 (the woman’s in-laws) would constitute ‘cruelty’ as defined under Section 498A of the IPC. The harassment contemplated has to be with a definite object, namely
to coerce the woman or any person related to her to meet any unlawful demand. Hence, mere harassment is not cruelty,” Justice Dere said.
While dismissing the woman’s revision application, the high court also observed there was a tendency to implicate all the family members whenever there was a matrimonial dispute, something which had been deprecated by the Supreme Court.

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Divorcee dads fight for their children’s rights

Divorcee dads fight for their children’s rights

TNN | Mar 24, 2014, 04.26 AM IST

PANAJI: Looking to protect children stuck in the crossfire of messy divorces, Bangalore-based Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) has opened a branch in Goa. The NGO is largely managed by injured divorcee-fathers who have been denied custody of their children, and in a strange twist are waging war on the 'patriarchal mindset' of the Indian legal system that considers fathers incapable of nurturing children. 

Having fought a long-drawn out custody battle for his daughter, especially one that was in the media spotlight because his ex-wife had married a cricketer ; the founder of CRISP, Bangalorean stockbroker Kumar Jahgirdar had a front seat view of the damage inflicted on the child's sense of security, her psychological and emotional well-being by sparring parents. 

"When a marriage ends badly, the two partners tend to use the legal system to hurt each other and stroke their own egos. The child's needs lose precedence; the child is first used as leverage and then ends up as spoils of war—in the process, witnessing such malevolence in his/her formative years," says Kumar. 

He also complains of the glaring gender-bias displayed by Indian courts in favour of mothers. "While CRISP is gender-neutral, with quite a few female members as well, one has to admit that fathers get the raw deal in custody agreements. If the father is unmarried, the court complains that there is no female member to care for the child. If the father re-marries, they deny custody on grounds that the child would not be treated well by the stepmother," he says, speaking from his own experience. 

"There is urgent need for a special commission, led by a panel of experts like child psychologists and activists to step in, counsel the parents and convince them to share custody of the children, even before they apply for divorce. This will also help avoid parental abduction, where the custodial parent takes the child to another country without the permission of the other—a problem rampant in Goa," adds realtor Remiz Cardoz, who heads the Goa chapter of CRISP. 

The NGO has 30,000 members across its five other branches in India, who lurk around family courts to guide divorcing partners, conduct awareness meetings for the legal community, and generally provide support to non-custodial parents and their families. They also offer a network of psychiatrists and lawyers who work pro-bono to help parents in these situations. 

"We are getting even more aggressive with our campaign ahead of the elections, to send out a strong message to all parents: Only vote for the party that guarantees protection of children's rights in their manifesto. Even though children account for 40% of India's population, no political party is interested in taking up their problems because they are not a vote bank," says Kumar, who is pushing for a separate Union ministry for children. "Children's rights are completely different from women's rights and it does not make sense that they are clubbed together," he adds.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Misuse and abuse of 498a ipc exposed again | Delhi court says Dowry law cannot be harassment tool and orders investigation against woman for falsely implicating husband

Misuse and abuse of 498a ipc exposed again | Delhi court says Dowry law cannot be harassment tool and orders investigation against woman for falsely implicating husband

Submitted by IANS on 23 March 2014 

New Delhi: A court here has observed that dowry prohibition law cannot be allowed to become a tool for harassment.

Granting relief to a man, who was booked in a dowry harassment case by his wife, the court ordered investigation against the complainant for filing a false case.

The man's wife in July 2012 filed a first information report (FIR) against him in a South Delhi police station, alleging that he demanded dowry and subjected her to cruelty, which resulted in her miscarriage.

Police investigated the complaint and filed a cancellation report, giving a clean chit to the accused.

Metropolitan Magistrate Shivani Chauhan, accepting the cancellation report of Delhi Police, said Sections 498A (subjecting woman to cruelty) and 406 (criminal breach of trust) and Dowry Prohibition Act are special legislations enacted for the "protection of women" and have serious penal consequence for the offender.

"Under no circumstances can it be permitted to become a tool for harassment of innocent persons," the magistrate said.

"There is a enough material on record to show that the complaint was false and fabricated."

During the investigation it was revealed that it was the woman's second marriage and there was no evidence of dissolution of the first.

The woman alleged cruelty by the man which had resulted in her miscarriage. But the court noted that the investigation report showed she had voluntarily got the medical termination of her pregnancy.

It was observed the woman had mentioned the name of the other man in the medical report. The bills of hospital were cleared by the other man.

Sunday, March 16, 2014

Hon'ble Justice (Retd) Shiv Narayan Dhingra ji, Chief Guest, speaks on Grand Celebrations of 10th FOUNDATION DAY of SAVE INDIAN FAMILY MOVEMENT 09th March 2014

Hon'ble Justice (Retd) Shiv Narayan Dhingra ji, Chief Guest, speaks on 
Grand Celebrations 
on 9th March 2014
Venue :- Conference Hall, Institute of Engineers(India), Delhi

More videos from Celebration Day to follow

Read more with photo share at Save Indian Family (SIF) Celebrating 10 years of Rebuilding the Broken Families - Undoing the Societal Misandry | The Light at the End of Tunnel

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Save Indian Family (SIF) Celebrating 10 years of Rebuilding the Broken Families - Undoing the Societal Misandry | The Light at the End of Tunnel

Save Indian Family (SIF) Celebrating 10 years of Rebuilding the Broken Families - Undoing the Societal Misandry 

The Light at the End of Tunnel

(PS - More photo coverage at the end of blogpost)

SIF Foundation Day Souvenir Magazine Volume 1 available at

Save Indian family (SIF) A name which few people would have heard or cared about 9 years back, but today this is a force to reckon with. The membership of SIF has reached lakhs across the world. Most of the prominent members of SIF come from well-educated and respected families. 

(SIF) also has a large number of women supporters who have joined the movement realizing the pain and trauma men and their families go through in Indian society. Many of these women supporters have been victims themselves as sisters, mothers and mother-in-laws. These ladies themselves were falsely implicated due to gender biased laws that are wife-centric. Members of (SIF) aim to protect men and women from extortionist wives, corrupt Police officials and biased judiciary.

This is a true story of a man, Bharat. In 2005, Bharat was a hard-working young man, who jumped through many hoops to make a successful career as a scientist. He was raised to believe that a good man puts women and children first, protects and provides for his family, respects women, and endures pain and sacrifice without heaving a sigh.

Unfortunately, he was unaware of a fact that good men are often at the receiving end of abuse; until he himself became a victim of spousal violence and witnessed societal apathy towards men like him. To add to his woes, he also became victim of gender biased law IPC Section 498A, a law which gave undue credibility to his wife, and treated him as guilty until he could prove himself innocent. He was arrested and imprisoned for a crime he did not commit. He had to witness his parents and siblings being jailed for no fault of theirs. He lost his job and suffered unbearable pain due to separation from his child. Having lost all hope, he ended his life at a tender age of 28. In local dailies, news of his death was flashed as "A scientist ends his life due to financial problems.”

Bharat’s story is just one of more than 68000 thousand men in India, whose thankless lives taken away every year just when they are ready to blossom. Statistics from the National Crime Records Bureau show that every 9 minutes one married Indian man committed suicide unable to withstand verbal, emotional, economic and physical abuse and legal harassment.

An unanswered question from (SIF) to all social activists and law makers: Is the Pain of A Mother or Sister any less when they lose their Son or Brother?

In the last 150 days (SIF) and its associated 35+ NGOs all over India, have been mentioned in the media in 60 different articles. If every article has been read by at least 100,000 people, then about 8 million people across the world would have known or heard about (SIF) and that is something to be proud of.

We believe in the teachings of Mahatma Gandhi and we get our inspiration from this great man. We believe in his words "First they ignore you, then they mock you, then they fight you, then you win "!!

(SIF) is aware of the odds stacked against it. (SIF) knows very well that media and other industries would love to see more family break ups, because family breakups increase spending and this further drives up the demands for the goods and products. "A united family will own one TV while a dived family will need two is the simple reasoning.”

However (SIF) knows it will win, because (SIF) is on the same side as truth is and we believe that "Truth Always Wins"(Satyamev Jayate).

(SIF) may not have the blessing of the Government of India, but we do have the blessings of thousands of mothers, grandmothers and sisters who work and fight with us day in and day out trying to educate the slumbering Indian populace.

(SIF) has the support of hundreds of small but nevertheless important NGOs who work with us to spread the word on how gender biased laws are destroying Indian society. We all try to wake up the people of India to bring about gender equality in the society.

We know we will win and we will succeed in creating a Ministry for the Welfare of Indian Men .

We know that the night is darkest before the sun shines and the (SIF) has no doubt that the sun will shine and spread the rays of hope, peace and family harmony that will keep the Indian family as a cohesive unit for the next ten thousand years.

On this occasion, (SIF) would also like to review the present status of men in Indian society and highlight the need to accord men the privileges and protections that they rightly deserve as fellow humans.

Thousands of men are becoming victims of "legal terrorism" unleashed by the misuse of Indian Penal Code Section 498A, Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act, adultery laws, laws against rape and sexual harassment, and even divorce, maintenance and child custody laws. 

The Universal Declaration of Human rights states that "all are equal before the law, and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law". Article 14 of the Indian Constitution declares that "The State shall not deny to any person equality before the law or the equal protection of the laws within the territory of India." However, the Government of India has not made any provisions to protect men against any form of domestic abuse or harassment at the work place. 

The Universal Declaration of Human Rights also proclaims that "everyone charged with a penal offence has the right to be presumed innocent until proved guilty according to law."  However, women-centric laws in India presume that the accused man is guilty until he can prove his innocence, thus violating the presumption of innocence and the principles of fair trial which is guaranteed under Articles 20 and 21 of the Constitution of India, in addition to defying the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. 

(SIF) has been working hard to sensitize the public to these serious issues, and to urge the Government to take appropriate measures to alleviate men's woes in the present times. 

We request all honest citizens of India, to Join SIF Team,

  • To Stop such legal terrorism against Indian men and demand to replace the word "Husband/wife" 
  • To "Spouse" and "Men/Women" to "Person" in all Laws and Policies. 

This is followed all across the world and assumptions that Women never lie do not hold ground. As per Indian Laws her verbal allegations, without any evidence, are sufficient to label anyone as a rapist, wife beater or dowry seeker. This is nothing but promotion of injustice and such injustice has and will continue to become an extortion tool.

On the eve of (SIF) Foundation day , we make an appeal to Indian Government to Form

Ministry of Men's Welfare.
   - As per Crime Bureau of India, more than 92,000 men commit suicide every year
   - Why 3.5 lac men are losing their jobs per year?
  - According to Labour and Employment Ministry (2001 to 2005), more  than 13 lakh Men became Jobless and the count is increasing every year.

Today some one may love or hate (SIF) , but can't ignore any more as the same became a Ray of Hope for many abused/distressed men of India.

Photoshare of Foundation day celebrations - 09 March 2014