Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Now, level field for men and women

Now, level field for men and women

Tuesday, Aug 31, 2010

The Direct Taxes Code Bill proposes to end positive gender discrimination of the last 10 years in income taxation.

From April 1, 2012, women could cease to enjoy special income-tax exemptions over and above what men get, according to the new Bill. Only senior citizens will get extra relief — those with annual income of up to Rs 2.5 lakh need not pay tax.

Early reactions from women are mixed.

While Ms Shweta Dixit, an advertising professional in the affected tax bracket, is miffed, corporate lawyer Ms Kumkum Sen says, “I don't think there should be any special exemption for women. Instead, what we need is more motivation.”

She explains motivation as areas such as itemised deductions, attractive to women professionals, or special exemptions on property registration, which motivates more women to buy property.

Delhi-based chartered accountant Satyendra Jain thinks the difference will only be an increased tax of Rs 3,500 annually to those in the affected tax bracket.

Meanwhile, according to a book, Taxation and Gender Equity, only about 0.00001 per cent of all women in India and 0.27 per cent of working-age women are tax-payers.

http://www.thehindubusinessline.com/2010/08/31/stories/2010083153510100.htm

Penis-chopping police get an earful from apex court

Tuesday, Aug 31, 2010,

Penis-chopping police get an earful from apex court

The Supreme Court (SC) gave a dressing down on Monday to police who chopped off the penis of a man in police barracks at Barmer, Rajasthan, six years ago.

Terming the act “barbaric”, SC asked accused constable Kishore Singh and his two accomplices why they should not be awarded life sentences.

“How can you chop off the penis of a man? It is such a barbarian act. There is a limit even to nonsense,” an anguished bench of justices Markandey Katju and TS Thakur said.

“There is something called civilised behaviour,” the judges said while hearing a CBI petition seeking enhancement of the sentence given to the cops.

Station house officer Sohan Singh, assistant sub-inspector Sumer Dhan and Kishore Singh took Jugat Ram, an employee of a businessman, to the police barracks and chopped off his penis after subjecting him to torture in 1994.

The cops committed the gruesome act at the instance of Jugat’s employer Bhairav Singh. Jugat had allegedly developed an illicit relationship with Bhairav’s wife and daughter and admitted it.

The trial court ordered life imprisonment to all the three cops, but the Rajasthan high court acquitted Sumer Dhan and Sohan Singh saying there was no evidence against them and reduced the sentence of Kishore Singh to four years.

Kishore challenged the verdict in SC. His lawyer told the court that
there was no evidence against his client. But SC refused to accept his plea. “You are all policemen. You have chopped off the penis of a man after bringing him to police station. How can an independent witness speak against you?” the court said.

Asserting that delinquent and criminal policemen shouldn’t be allowed to go scot-free, the judges said otherwise “today you have chopped off somebody’s penis, tomorrow you will chop off someone’s head. You can go to any extent. There has to be a strong and deterrent punishment”.

http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_penis-chopping-police-get-an-earful-from-apex-court_1431201

Criminal case against woman for giving dowry

Criminal case against woman for giving dowry


A woman, who complained of being tortured by her in-laws despite giving a hefty dowry, found herself in trouble as a Delhi court has ordered filing of a criminal case against her and her family for giving dowry. Additional chief metropolitan magistrate Lokesh Kumar Sharma directed SHO Shahdara to register the FIR on a complaint filed in the court by a harried husband.
    In the complaint filed through counsel Gagan Preet Singh and Karan Vir Singh, the man referred to the allegations made by his wife before the Crime Against Women (CAW) Cell of Delhi Police that huge dowry was paid in her marriage. PTI

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One man's struggle with Indian Police

One man's struggle with Indian Police

 

Sunday, 15 August 2010 10:24

Written by Dipak Kumar Adhikari

To,The Incharge, Police Department.


Please help me. If required please send this mail to appropriate authorities. Mr. Shankar Kumar Samanta S.B.I. Officer purchased local Police, Please help me.


Respected Sir,
100% now I believe that if you have money then you can get anything, every thing is possible by you. If you are a poor then you can’t get anything, every thing is far and beyond possible to you, also you get poor judgment and poor comportment in all aspects of life, in our country INDIA. For example 1. I. I went to Police Station more than 100 times, made 5times entries (complaints) into G.D. but Not even a microscopic actions took place against the alleged bodies. On the contrary Sandip Samanta, S/O. Shankar Kumar Samanta (S.B.I. OFFICER Ph. No. 9830366434, Branch: 24B, Nimtala Ghat Street, Jorabagan, Kolkata- 700006, West Bengal, India‎, Bank Ph. No. 033 25308337) he has much more and enough money so they purchase all police personnel's and some political leaders, some Dada. Etc. Only I used to get many letters and many phone calls which all seem to me needs to be thrown in the trash, as it all are valueless, toothless and only simply a solace to the poor. What an u ndone boy I am! Woe is to me! My wife and her family, Shankar Kumar Samanta and his family harassed me and my family, they are torcher me physically and mentally.
We got married 05/03/2002, and have a daughter who took birth on 09/07/2005. My wife and her family lodged a case 498A/34 IPC, FIR NO.276, date 31/08/2009, P.S.: BAGUIATI, against me and some of my family members it’s a fabricated, baseless, legless, toothless and doesn’t have any commensurate to the fact. My wife is engaged and having an illicit affair with a boy (Sandip Samanta, S/O. Shankar Kumar Samanta S.B.I. Officer Ph. No. 9830366434, Branch: 24B, Nimtala Ghat Street, Jorabagan, Kolkata- 700006, West Bengal, India‎, Bank Ph. No. 033 25308337) just opposite to my house, all the matters are known to every person in my village, and also they have certified me written about my fresh character and nature. When my wife left form my house with Sandip Samanta taking many vory gold and cash 1.20 lack Indian rupees. What a demon she is! She didn’t take our only daughter (only four years old) who is now in my house having severe asthma supported by inhaler. My wife f iled the 498A case dated 31/08/2009 and I was arrested on 06/09/2009, how much money Taken Baguiati police form my father and others for 498A/34 I.P.C., fabricated Charge Sheeted, I don’t know, because then I’m in Jail. The Learn" ed court granted me on bail on 19/09/2009. Barasat court. I have lots of irrefutable evidences, (20 pcs. Adult S.M.S., Adult picture with the boy and a c.d.) with me where it is cleanly reveals which translates my wife and the boy that they are in illicit relations. Believe me I and my family would love very much (which is very rare seen in our society) to my wife and never any kind of love lost didn’t happen. They (My wife family) are very very poor and live in a bosti Address: 70/H/8 Manicktolla Main Road, Kolkata – 700054, Beside 5 Star Club, my mother saw 1st time and she arranged my marriage. Before marriage my family did not see the pedigree of my wife’s family, now we understood also realized that they hailed from a worst stat us. My wife, her family and (Sandip Samanta, S/O. Shankar Kumar Samanta) all they are misusing this law. Now my wife’s family knows all the affair-related matter. My wife left our only solitary daughter to me who is 4 years old having severe "Asthma Disease, depends on INHALER, here political Hide and seek, ducks and drakes and lots of unfair means are going on and the father of the parents (THE FATHER OF THE BOY WHO HAS ILLICIT RELATIONS WITH MY WIFE) are rich, so they are spending money to everywhere with a view to be escaped. Now I decided that in no way I can’t accept that demon wife. I hired a lawyer his name Mr. Kamelash Nandi. I don’t know what will be happened next? It’s an utterly a huge and a palpable offence subsequent to which the boy deserves severe and examplanary punishment so that no one can dare to abuse this law. My mother is a sugar present shies sugar is now 400. If possible please help me. Please investigate the matter thread barely and save me a nd my family. I leave here one question to every one that in this die-straits situation whom do I take care to myself (TRAGEDY), my daughter, or my mother (severe Diabetic)?. My wife filed another case me U/s. 125 Cr. P. C. Case NO.167/2009, (Smt. Nita Sarkar J.M. 1st Court Sealdah South 24 Parganas. Date 16/12/2009.) I am millions miles away from the genuine and authentic investigation and inquiry. No inquiry, investigation were executed against the F.I.R lodged by my wife. It is very painful, lamentable as well as heart rendering, breath taking affair to me and my family. My heart bursts into guffaw when I see the nature of the inquiry and investigation. One thing is as clear as crystal to me that the law and the task of the law enforcing agencies vary from man to man. A new proverb is going to take birth very soon that "Justice for the rich and Injustice is for the poor" A rich reserves the right to indulge in any kind of heinous business but the poor is restricted to in volve in any type of excellent deeds" To see all these my heart is about to come in the mouth and the ground under my feet gets shook. In a word all types of Law are for the poorest and the richest will enjoy the richest judgments from all quarters.
After coming form the DumDum Central Jail, I mat with the BAGUIATI POLICE O.C. Mr. Goutam Mitra, and asked him politely: “ SIR I FAILED TO UNDERSTAND THAT I MADE SO MANY ENTIRIES INTO YOUR G.D.E. BUT YET NO ACTION SO FAR HAS NOT BEEN TAKEN FORM YOURSELF” then BAGUIATI POLICE O.C. Mr. Goutam Mitra, went through all my papers (20 pcs. Adult S.M.S., Adult picture with the boy, G.D.E, MANY MANY OTHER PAPERS RELATED TO MY CASE and TWO c.d.). After seeing all my papers he told me that I cannot take any action until and unless you lodge a case against all of them.
Then I Prayed to the Ld. C.J.M at Barasat court to lodge the case, against the alleged person. (The payer to the Ld. C.J.M. is enclosed which is self-explanatory) after filing the case (The case is starting At Baguiati Police Station Case No-168 Date: 24.04.2010. CHARGE 323, 379, 406, 497, 498, 500, 504, 506 READ WITH 34/120B OF INDIAN PENAL CODE) the BAGUIATI POLICE O.C. Mr. Goutam Mitra, and I.O. Mr. Prasenta Kumar Das, Mr. Ajay Kumar Ghosh, in stead of taking not any take proper investigation/ not take any action/ not take any type of query to recover my Cash and Gold form the house of Shankar Kumar Samanta, The BAGUIATI POLICE O.C. Mr. Goutam Mitra, and I.O. Mr. Prasenta Kumar Das, Mr. Ajay Kumar Ghosh, took my case as a Golden Goose, and how much money BAGUIATI POLICE O.C. Mr. Goutam Mitra, and I.O. Mr. Prasenta Kumar Das, Mr. Ajay Kumar Ghosh, has taken is well known to them. Neither he took any take proper investigation/ not take any action/not take any type of query nor he did roundup them against my case.
When I saw that already near by 90-100 days went by “ I went to the BAGUIATI P.S. to know the status of the case then BAGUIATI POLICE I.O. Mr. Prasenta Kumar Das, Mr. Ajay Kumar Ghosh, became outraged me and my mother that if you ask about Shankar Kumar Samanta and his family I will sentence you and your family in the Jail, all their languages is so much filthy dirty which I cannot express front of you.
As I’m 100 percent innocent so I screw up my courage to place my grievances to every body in order to get redress. So I want to let my matter informed all the Indian and others. I wrote my matter to our local P.S., Local Councilor, all M.P., M.L.A., Minister in W.B. and Other States, C.M. in W.B., CBI Department, CID Department, S.P. and Dy.S.P.(N.) 24 Parganas, DGP Bhupindar Singh, All the I.P.S. AND I.A.S. OFFICERS. Governor in W.B, and President in India. P.M. in India, National/International Human rights department, AAP KI KACHEHRI – KIRAN KE SAATH, Kolkata Police, and all police officers in W.B. informed Kolkata Commissioner of Police, Manager S.B.I.-Branch: 24B, Nimtala Ghat Street, Jorabagan, Kolkata- 700006, West Bengal, India‎, Bank Ph. No. 033 25308337. My nation, all of the news channels, and all press, Talking with some NGO’s: 1. Universal Right and Duty for Human to Abide URDHA, 2. Human Right Commission’s Mr. Ujjal Paul and Mr. Shibaji Dasgupta. 3. B hatat Bachao Sangathan BBS. 4. Forum for Social Justice and Development FSJD. 5. Ajjtak News Channel’s Miss Menogya. and many more, (anybody can’t help me/ fight for truth /don’t take proper investigation/do not take any action/don’t take any type of query/ Still Now, many department told does not comes under the purview of our department. Then my question is where I go now? I see they all are in sound asleep. The reason is best known to them.
I hope you would care to me, your prompt action shall be highly appreciated and deserves to be lauded.
With kindest regards,
Dipak Kumar Adhikari

http://www.oyetimes.com/news/110-india/5251-one-mans-struggle-with-indian-police

Practical and Sincere advice to never married men (boys)

Practical and Sincere advice to never married men (boys)


Much discussion has already done by our seniors already over here, i want to add something in real about this matter with few more details.
The following are words put here after my marriage experience. It is my view only, not a rule put by our community or rule of law that is to be followed. It is purely personal, which I justify by giving instances at times leading to a big story.
Have time go through it. I have prepared for never married men taking into consideration especially like you. I am thankful to forum that I am able to put through this means.
One of my friends told and I have read it in many places that a man can be understood clearly to 99% of accuracy but a woman can never be understood even to 49% of what is store in her mind.
I have used video recording in most of the contexts, we can get these cameras at an economical cost in market today. Audio recorders or mobile phones can be used. After recording copy them in local hard disks, CD's, DVD's as soon possible. Don't every try to modify the original recordings, Keep it at a safe place. There is some place for these evidences in court proceedings (If the records are not applicable before court at least they will be applicable before people's court, so keep a record of all things possible.). Give complaints to local police station whether you get them or not, when your mobile is lost, clearly stating the date, time, mobile model and the capacity of memory card.
Scan each and every document and store in a safe place globally along with the electronic records accessible through internet. There are plenty of sites offering these services, only thing is you need to login before some specified days, otherwise there is a danger of losing all files. If you have any trouble knowing these you may let me know. Documental evidences are always applicable in court.
You should be cautious with three W's - Wine, woman and Wife according to an English proverb. These are three most dangerous things in any one's life. First two you know, last you might not be. I explain here, wife is also a most dangerous person when she is against you. When all well she is heart and love for you, you will say everything what is store in it which you might have never said even to a close friend or your parents who are whole and sole in your life even when you are at good and bad times in every way possible to them. So she knows even the password of your personal PC, laptop, official passwords, official people, and what not, each and every aspect of you personal and impersonal, family related matters, strength and weakness of each and every member of your family, your resources of income, your income and the story goes like this. You might take a cue from all this that how much personal it is with a wife. She also have access to every relation by phone and email and what ever way, even personally she has been with us through our family or when we make visit to friends and relatives. So she has every chance of putting all possible hurdles when something goes wrong with her from our side. It is also there that we also have the samething, but law is in favour of women, in our Indian society only women gets the support, not the men community. Women can ask for divorce in front of a judge, but a man cannot ask for divorce, he can only ask for justice to be done.
Before Marriage:
These things are done as a measure of precautionary measure/to be safe side, not compulsory that each and every aspect is met. But will be helpful when there is some problem. We take precautionary measures in offices like servicing the vehicle, cleaning up the system, the same way this one.
1. Do not go into detail every aspect of your personal life while discussing on phones or when you meet personally.
2. Don't take frantic calls/ make frantic calls pretend you are busy, tell softly will get back soon when time permits, go when you really have time to leisure. This need not be done every time when she makes a request. Sometimes exclaim her that we will go, within a short notice.
3. Don’t talk much from your side, just try to get as much information, pretend you are also giving that much information when asked but never complete information. Eat out the actual point in your discussion by bringing something more.
4. Enjoy outings to a limit, you are still unmarried.
5. Never ever stay with your about in-laws before and after marriage unless there is something which happened contrary to your plan and expectation or when helpless.
6. Don’t make frequent visits to your in-laws any time(I mean before and after marriage whenever the context of any time comes).
7. Don’t send frantic messages, namely you are the world; you are my only love ... any time.
8. If you have very affection keep it in yourselves don’t ever try to express even after marriage.
9. Try to record happy moments in front of her with her knowledge. Moments should be recorded whether it is a happy note or sad note.
10. Record all discussions in video possible when some financial matters aspect, that to in the presence of elders (relatives may or may not be considered but third party person is compulsory concerned who is near to you or who knows about your family and is concerned to your family - the person/person's in consideration).
11. There should be agreement that in case of any problem, either party should not try to disturb others by any means (this agreement details can be got from a lawyer, they have done good homework after many false cases) and paper evidences of what ever you have given and taken from them or given by you. Everything should be witnessed by the person discussed above.
12. Even for Sthridhan there should be evidence of what you have taken and what they have given. Everything should be witnessed by the person discussed above.
13. If you feel that you that you hurt feelings don’t go over, say sorry and tell it will not be repeated. Try not repeat again in your life. But never expect from the opposite side that she will do the same as you are trying to do.
14. If your attitude hurts her beyond your thinking, although you are right in your own way, better not to marry her.
After marriage
About Marriage:
A wife is the most concerned woman who looks after a husband at their house, keeping a watch that when he comes. She is the one who has left her parents in faith that you will look after her. Even though if she does no work if she is a house wife, she does all the household work, look after the house where on lives, domestic chores and many more cannot be looked single handedly with any other's help, Supreme court also gave ruling that she is doing work of Rs.3000/- and many other things which cannot be counted on her part. So, treat her on par with you reason she is equally respected however bigger you are, children of lesser age take blessings from both of us, this shows that she is equal to our level, even though she is younger to us, or earns less than us. This can be equally observed when we are at marriages, occasions, social meetings, functions, poojas...... So, take proper care from your side that all is well and nothing beyond.
1. Do not go into detail every aspect of your personal life while discussing on phones or when you meet personally, reveal some which you expect that it is not going to hit your privacy even if there is some misunderstanding.
2. Don't take frantic calls pretend you are really busy putting a sorry note in a soft manner, never cry foul, show your emotions, and never show official problems (keep your official problems with you and your friends every time) on her put a date for going when you are free, chart out a plan that you make some times and sometimes a miss due to co-incidence due to some other that you may not go for that but some other thing which expected not to happen.
3. Don’t talk much from your side, just try to get as much information, pretend you are always with her every time although you are thing some other thing. Don't talk much is the rule of marriage to keep away differences, unnecessary discussions, the much you talk much discussions will lead to some other thing contrary to what we expect.
4. Enjoy outings to a limit convenient to you, you are now married. Your bachelorhood has come to an end. You cannot be the same as previous lover of your wife as you have no reason for getting her away from you, this being in your mind; you will just take granted for what you have done earlier. But she is in no mood of what you are in; keeps thinking that you should be the same old man what she though before and like you to be like that. This can never be possible. But we can take out some time for leisure.
5. Never ever stay with your in-laws before and after marriage unless there is something which happened contrary to your plan and expectation or when you are helpless, unless it is a customary. Your stay will lesser your image that's what I say.
They have more personal look of you when you are at their place, can go more personal about your feelings, likings and want to get more closer than you have enjoyed (but I feel business entity, should be different from personal entity which is generally followed in accounting terms). The marriage which has happened is a busy entity. Marriage, although one form of business of living, it cannot be insured, I mean a loss of one's marriage cannot be insured. A loss of wife or husband can be insured. That is importance given for a marriage of two persons. By this you can expect how fragile a marriage is. This means that marriage cannot be trusted or one can have good faith in marriage.
6. Don’t make frequent visits to your in-laws any time. If you have no business there, take turn of your vehicle on road itself and come back to your place after dropping her or meet a friend if nearby if it happens that you may need to take her back after sometime. When picking up, you might go inside for some time, but do not stays there on one or more pretext even if your wife is not willing to come, after three or four times of such a measure she will automatically make her mind. If she doesn’t make her mind, there is some action needed from our side.
7. Send messages, prevent calls either side, otherwise trouble of getting all the calls (mostly unnecessary) creating disturbance to work and in front of boss, or anytime when we are in work or when we are not in a mood to take any calls after much exhaustion. But send proper messages at times when we are late, we have a meeting, we had to have a dinner but never say that you are your parents place if you happen to have parents in the same city and you had to go there with out her or against her wishes.
8. If you have very affection about her, keep it in yourselves don’t ever try to express it. But express it before people, your friends, parents, her parents but never before her.
9. Try to record happy moments soon after marriage, they cannot be returned again in your life time. The same will not be got back at any cost. Moments should be recorded whether it is a happy note or sad note.
10. If it happens that there are some disturbances that is going to happen or has happened, don’t get directly involved in it with your parents and her parents. Always bring the third person discussed the good Samaritan in our marriage from our side and discuss in front of him. All this should be video recorded. If the other party objects for some, don't come in line with them, ask them to come in their own way or give another camera to capture the events in their own way. But never resort to change in original any way by the new technology, it can go awry. We cannot underestimate the technology use by any one, although however unknowledgeable the government or the court may be of these.
10. All giving’s and taking should be recorded in a friendly manner, one video recorder and camera person from our family should always take that duty. This will make habituated without any objections from either side, because he keeps recording each and every aspect which is known to both the families. So, never ever forget to record all discussions in video when some financial matters aspect is concerned, that to in the presence of elders (relatives may or may not be considered but third party person is compulsory concerned who is near to you or who knows about your family and is concerned to your family
- the person/person's in consideration).
11. All will be well when all is flourishing well but when differences arise there will be none, if you take a single path.
Therefore, there should be a definite agreement if not taken already earlier, that in case of any problem, either party should not disturb others by any means (this agreement format and other details can be got from a lawyer, they have done good homework after many false cases) and paper evidences of what ever you have given and taken from them or given by you.
Everything should be witnessed by good Samaritan.
12. Even after that meeting, if you find no change, you have to think twice. You can sense by their actions that a doomsday will come. Pretend that you are not in mood of any change with what you are doing. This will irritate and finally one day she will leave. Try to keep talking always with her and her family members, relatives from the opposite side (all these days of marriage you might have met, keep in contact for future use, call them for parties, social meetings that happen in the family either side, be close to them, they are always better than our in-laws from whom you can get much details and also they are moreover like us). Don’t put details unless they themselves start about the current happenings.
13. Incase of problem: Don't stay at weekends mainly from Friday evening onwards, as Saturday and Sunday being holiday for courts to apply for bail, the complaint whenever it may be filed, they will come on Friday night to give trouble. If such a situation has come to go jail, go along with them without any protest. Before going for a decision when the trouble started, think whether you want to live your wife in future or not.
First Case: If you want to live because of several problems, family problems, monetary problems and what not go for jail do nothing; you or your people will get back on bail in 3 to 4 days in total. This will leave the whole family who met such jail not to take back the girl, but due to inherent fear they say you should live with her without any further trouble. Then you decide that you will be with her. Now try adjusting, if she comes in line its well and good. Otherwise, you can do what she has mentioned in the complaint to her and discharge her, closing the chapter of hers in your book. Now, you can do as you wish, if again jailed no problem, once jailed or repeated jails even 100 times won't matter, then you can decide your next course of action. Now you will be definitely free from your wife and own pestering by your family members and others.
Second Case: If you think you can never get along with her. Go to jail. You will get bail in 3 to 4 days. Before the police you say, whatever you do I am not interested any more in my wife. This word will make them think twice and the same thing should be put before the lawyer saying that "I don't want to live with the bitch that had put me in jail; the case file by her is a false case, which has caused severe mental cruelty to me and my family". On these words the opposite party will apply for divorce or come in terms with you and you are free.
One thing to note, if a vacation happens to be there near your problem, never stay at your place of living. Because all through the holidays of court you will be in jail for no fault of yours. Courts have vacations, like that of schools and colleges, all this has led to the current state of affairs where scores of cases are pending for years together in court.
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I have taken extract from a good site which is presented here.
What are the Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes men Probably Make with Women?
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women...And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common
Mistakes...
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT
LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone
who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation.
That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship with Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual-attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual-attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that
attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

http://498a.org/forum/viewtopic.php?p=31862&sid=e4de73658e160eea856edd43a0344213#p31862

also read http://498a.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=3561

Monday, August 30, 2010

One Dish, One Rule for Everyone!

One Dish, One Rule for Everyone!

On-Air: Thursday, January 29, 2009 {7PM, 3AM, 12PM (PST)}

What to make of a law that aspires to break free from senseless spending and pretentious extravagances under societal pressures? One would think it would be extremely popular with the masses. Why then is the law of one-dish at weddings met with so many petitions filed in high courts and supreme courts against it? Agreed the “Marriage Functions (prohibition of Ostentatious and Wasteful Expenses) Ordinance implemented in 1997 was slightly rigid in restricting wedding functions to only hot/cold drinks and insensible in dictating the number of guests allowed at weddings (not to exceed 300). However, the law, re-implemented in 2008 in Punjab (with the return of the Sharif brothers) and still unobserved in other provinces, has become much more flexible. {The Marriage Functions (Prohibition of Ostentatious and Wasteful Expenses) Ordinance 2000 under which the Punjab government is allowing only one-dish at wedding parties (one dish includes “one curry/salan, with rice and bread/roti and one sweet dish”)}. Today when Pakistan is experiencing an economic meltdown coupled with increasing global food costs (150% price hike of rice in the past year, shortage of flour etc.) this law has come as a blessing in disguise for middle and lower class Pakistanis. One might argue why the need of such desperate measures in a country where Eid and weddings are the only two times of rejoicing, the latter being grand, ostentatious, and lavish cultural events. However, one must understand the societal pressures and expectations which drive the poor to bury themselves under debt just to please and appease relatives and in laws. Weddings are a matter of prestige in our part of the world, cutting across class spectrum in this largely impoverished country of 160 million people, where the World Bank estimates per capita income is $800 a year. In the wake of this law how are caterers, poultry farm owners and marriage hall owners faring? People come up with newer ways everyday to serve lavish wedding dinners, whether by calling guests at home after the functions, having friends ‘host’ dinners, labeling it ‘aqeeqa’ or ‘birthdays’ etc. Information Secretary Nayyar Mahmood said the government will rely on anyone from police to snoopy neighbors to report violators, who risk fines of 100,000 to 300,000 rupees ($1,430 to $4,285) and confiscation of the food. The implementation of this law is questionable to date, including the actions and scope of the police - whereas the police are not allowed to raid private properties they are nonetheless suspended if authorities find out the law was breached (two SHOs were suspended on 23rd of December 2008 from service for not enforcing the ban on lavish wedding parties in Lahore).

I spoke to a representative of PML (N) - the party which introduced and re-implemented this law, a caterer, a marriage hall owner, DCO Lahore, and a religious scholar. The Islamic scholar put it beautifully, in that Islam preaches never going to the extent where one feels weighed down or compromised.  

 

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http://meher.tv/2009/01/29/one-dish-one-rule-for-everyone-punjab-weddings-pakistan/

http://www.dailytimes.com.pk/default.asp?page=2010\01\17\story_17-1-2010_pg7_14

Hiding a prior divorce from husband also amounts to cheating: Gujarat high court

Hiding a prior divorce from husband also amounts to cheating: Gujarat high court

The Gujarat high court recently gave two significant judgements in cases lodged by an NRI couple after their divorce. Justice Akil Kureshi of the high court ruled that if a woman conceals her previous marital status (including a marriage that had ended in a divorce), it amounted to cheating. In such a case, the husband can file a police complaint against his wife, the court said.

The judge also held that a woman can file a criminal complaint against her husband if he does not return her belongings after their marriage had ended in a divorce in a foreign country.

According to the case details, Mitesh and Tanya, who are currently citizens of the US, originally hail from Kheda district. They had got married with the consent of their respective families but their marriage soon ran into trouble and they divorced in the US in 2007. But the bad blood between the two did not end there.

Tanya filed a complaint in Nadiad under the dowry act among others, alleging that Mitesh had not returned her belongings which amounted to Rs20-Rs 25 lakh. These were given to her by her father at the time of the marriage but they were still with Mitesh's family, Tanya claimed. She demanded that Mitesh and his family return her belongings as she had divorced Mitesh in the US.

Mitesh had also filed a complaint at the same police station alleging that Tanya had cheated him as she had not disclosed the fact that prior to their marriage she was married to another boy and had divorced him too.

In his judgement, Justice Kureshi gave the green signal for filing of a police complaint against Tanya for not disclosing to Mitesh the details of her previous marriage and divorce. But the court turned down Mitesh's plea that Tanya's police complaint against him and his family for not returning her belongings be quashed.

The court also refused to entertain Tanya's argument that even if Mitesh's allegation was accepted as true, it did not constitute an offence as her previous marriage had been annulled by the competent court in the US.

On the other hand, Mitesh in his complaint had argued that Tanya had concealed details of her previous marriage even in the marriage form. This amounted to cheating and forgery, he said.

"Tanya had made a false declaration saying that she was unmarried, after which he had agreed to marry her," Mitesh declared in his complaint.

In her complaint demanding the return of her belongings, Tanya stated Mitesh and his family had not returned what belonged to her. As per the terms of their divorce settlement, the two parties were supposed to return each other's property, she stated, adding that Mitesh was now saying that he and his family did not have any of Tanya's belongings.

Sunday, August 29, 2010

IAS for a groom! - “Antardwand” deals with groom kidnapping – The DOWRY racket industry

 

“Antardwand” deals with groom kidnapping <br />prevalent in some districts of Bihar

“Antardwand” deals with groom kidnapping prevalent in some districts of Bihar

As “Antardwand” comes out in the open director Sushil Rajpal talks about the film

Socially relevant small budget cinema is proving to be the flavour of the season. New names and faces are making their way to the marquee. After Udaan and Peepli Live generated more than the expected buzz, Sushil Rajpal's Antardwand, released this past week. The film is based on groom kidnapping, colloquially called pakaruah shaadi in Bihar. Inspired by a real life incident, where his close friend had to go through the bizarre practice, Rajpal says groom kidnapping has got a degree of social sanction because in 80 per cent cases the boy and the girl compromise and resign to their fate. “That's why people are ready to take the risk. In many cases marriage ceremony is organised in the open and people come.”

Rajpal says mostly IAS officers and government engineers are targeted because private sector has yet to reach Bihar in a big way. “What happens is the girl's father targets a boy of a well-to-do family. If the groom's family declines or demands unusually high dowry, the girl's father gets the boy kidnapped, forces him to marry his daughter and ensures that the boy and the girl spend a night together. After that the boy is virtually trapped for life. He can't get divorce until the girl gives her consent. And if he pursues the case, complex legal battles on maintenance and rights over property crop up. If the boy has inherited property, his wife automatically gets a right over it. More often than not the guy compromises and every thing become normal on the surface.”

Rajpal says in such cases it is the girl who suffers the most, as she hardly has any outlet to air her emotions. “Whether deserted or divorced, her life becomes a living hell. Her father believes that he has done a great job for his daughter but in most cases he only ensures slow death.” Rajpal says dowry is one of the biggest causes but egos also play a part as in most cases the girl's family is also financially strong and politically connected. “I have seen an IPS officer refusing to marry his son to a bureaucrat's daughter because of dowry. So, it is prevalent at the highest level.”

Rajpal says the film doesn't take sides as his intention is to bring out the reality. “I have treated it as an entertainer otherwise common man won't be able to digest the seriousness of the issue. The issue is also such that it sounds bizarre and has a tinge of black humour.” An alumnus of Hansraj College, Rajpal himself hails from Bihar. Interested in photography from college days, he graduated from FTII with specialisation in cinematography.

A known name in advertising, he was noticed when he shot Pradeep Sarkar's Laaga Chunari Mein Daag. We generally expect visually-rich subjects from cinematographer-turned-directors? “That's true but I wanted to make a content-driven film. I shot in real life situation and cast actors who could speak with the local accent.” The film stars Raj Singh Choudhary (of Gulal fame) and FTII graduate Swati Sen in lead roles with Vinay Pathak and Akhilendra Mishra lending support.

The film was ready two years ago, but came into limelight when it won the National Award for the best film on social issues. “A doctor friend of mine in the U.S. saw it and said that it should get a theatre release. He donated some money and the process started. The National Award tag helped PVR come on board but the real help came from Anurag Kashyap, Imtiaz Ali and Raj Kumar Hirani who vouched for the film.” Isn't it a healthy trend where established filmmakers are coming to the support of an emerging filmmaker? “It is, particularly when they all make different kinds of cinema. I must say I was lucky. Even if somebody has the best of intentions, you must remember these are very busy people and it is difficult to take out time to watch and then promote the film.”

Even as we talk to Rajpal, he is busy collating funds so that his Rs.1.5 crore film gets the desired publicity. “It is one of the rare films where the publicity budget has exceeded the shooting budget!”

http://www.thehindu.com/arts/cinema/article600292.ece

Mother kills son by electric shock as he opposes her 'affair', held

Mother kills son by electric shock as he opposes her 'affair', held

 

 

 

http://khabar.ibnlive.in.com/videos/38700

Hyderabad: Andhra Pradesh Police arrested a mother, who allegedly killed her 13-year-old son because he objected to her 'illicit' affair.

The 32-year-old mother gave electric shock to her son in Nalgonda district resulting in his death after he objected to her relationship, police said on Saturday.

The incident occurred at Damarchala village of Miryalguda Mandal of the district yesterday, they said.

According to police, the boy was tied to a pole near his house and his mother allegedly held a live electric wire to his body resulting in his death.

A senior police officer quoting Damarchala villagers and sarpanch said K Shivamani was reportedly angry when her son opposed her alleged illicit affair.

The woman, on the other hand, refuted the allegation and claimed that her son harassed her daily. She said the boy was neither studying nor doing any work and was indulging in illegal acts, police said.

"Following a complaint by the villagers, police have registered a case of murder against Shivamani, who has been taken into custody," a senior police officer said.

http://ibnlive.in.com/news/mother-electrocuted-son-in-hyderabad-held/129821-3.html?from=tn

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/hyderabad/Mother-kills-son-by-electric-shock-as-he-opposes-her-affair-/articleshow/6451500.cms#ixzz0xvWFWVQG

Delhi Court expresses concern over misuse of Domestic Violence Act

Delhi Court expresses concern over misuse of Domestic Violence Act

New Delhi, Aug 29 (PTI) A Delhi court has expressed its concern over the misuse of the Domestic Violence Act to settle civil dispute between sparring couples with the use of women as "pawn" by the male relatives.


"The misuse and abuse of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 is a matter of serious concern for the courts which are required to be careful and ensure that a woman petitioner is not made a puppet or pawn in the hands of her male relatives so as to manipulate the Act and use it for ulterior motives," Additional Sessions Judge Kamini Lau said.
The court said the purpose of passing the welfare law was to protect the family value system and not to create a civil right.
"The provisions of special legislation in favour of women cannot be abused as the short cut for establishing a civil rights where none exists," the court said.


"The intent of the Act is to protect the value system and institution of family and save it from destruction. This being so, the provisions of the Act have to be so interpreted to ensure that the existing family system is preserved," it said.
The court made the observation while dismissing an appeal of a woman who challenged an order rejecting her plea to be given a wholesome right to reside in a shanty also being occupied by her brother-in-law and sister-in-law.


"It is evident that the attempt of the appellant (woman) is to ensure the division of the property and create her independent right in the same under the garb of the present petition," the court said.


It also noted that the woman as well as her husband have "collusively" filed the petition by "camouflaging a dispute" and have sought the invocation of the Protection of Women from the Domestic Violence Act, 2005, with the sole object of seeking the removal of her brother-in-law and sister-in-law from the property in question.


"This court cannot be a party to any such attempt of the parties to abuse the special legislation enacted to grant immediate relief to women who are victims of Domestic Violence. The right of one woman (the appellant) cannot be implemented by infringing upon a similar right of another woman i.e. sister-in-law/jethani in the same property," ASJ Lau said.

http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_delhi-court-expresses-concern-over-misuse-of-domestic-violence-act_1430257

http://www.asianage.com/delhi/need-check-misuse-dv-act-says-court-359

Domestic Violence Act: Court pulls up woman

 

A Delhi court has slammed a woman petitioner for misusing of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005.

Noting that Sunita Devi connived with her husband to file the petition against her in-laws, Additional Sessions Judge Kamini Lau said: “The intent of the Act is to protect the value system and institution of family. The misuse and abuse of the Act is a matter of serious concern for courts who must ensure that a woman petitioner is not made a puppet in the hands of her male relatives so as to manipulate the Act and use it for ulterior motives.”

The court was hearing the appeal of Sunita, who had appealed against the March order of a Metropolitan Magistrate, dismissing her petition under the Act.

The appellant said that her brother-in-law and sister-in-law requested shelter at her Delhi house in July 2008. Since then they abused her verbally and physically and with the brother-in-law even tried to kill her under the influence of alcohol, she claimed.

Alleging that they also looted Rs 7,700 from her, Sunita requested the court for grant of maintenance, compensation and also to pass protection orders under the Act.

The brother-in-law pleaded that it was his property and he had allowed Sunita and her husband to live there, but the papers of his ownership had been lost.

The court noted that none of the parties have papers to establish their ownership over the property constructed by DDA, and the home in which Sunita was living with her husband was separate from the one that her in-laws were residing in.

The domestic incident report also revealed that when Sunita came to live in the house, her husband and in-laws were already residing there.

The court said, “The attempt of the appellant is to ensure division of property and create her right under the garb of the petition. It is clear that she and her husband have collusively filed the petition by camouflaging a dispute. Such kind of abuse of the special legislation should be checked at the earliest.”

http://www.indianexpress.com/news/domestic-violence-act-court-pulls-up-woman/674243/0

Room for justice: Saket Court opens

Sake Court Complex

Sake Court Complex. (Photos: Anindya Chattopadhyay)

NEW DELHI: From judges holding courts in the "space under the staircase'' to "centrally airconditioned'' courtrooms, the new swanky court complex at Saket is now a model court complex for other states. Sharing his experience of seeing judges working in "pathetic conditions'' for the last 20 years, Chief Justice of India S H Kapadia on Saturday said that after opening of Saket court complex, which has the best infrastructural facilities, the subordinate courts will work with "dignity''.


"Can you have a judicial delivery system or justice delivery mechanism without proper infrastructure? The answer is no,'' CJI Kapadia said at the inauguration of the sixth district court complex in the capital. CJI Kapadia said he had gone through the statistical data of the last 10 years regarding budget allocation for the judiciary and while other states had below 1% of their GDP being allocated to the judiciary, Delhi topped the chart with 1.6%. CJI Kapadia's remarks were seconded by Delhi chief minister Sheila Dikshit also present at the inauguration who hinted that Saket was not going to be the the last of the many district courts in the capital."We are opening the sixth district court complex. Two more will come as and when the need arises. We can give whatever is required for the judicial system,'' she said.


While the new swanky court complex won accolades from the judiciary and legal fraternity for having the best infrastructure in the country, opening of saket court complex will also significantly reduce the workload of Patiala house court complex. Built using a budget of Rs 313 crore, Saket court complex will have two major districts south and southeast under its jurisdiction. With this, Patiala house, which used to handle 2 lakh people every day, will now be left with New Delhi district and will have less workload. Making Saket court complex operational is also going to ease the backlog of more than 12 lakh pending cases in the district courts as posting of the new batch of 80 judges, who were recruited last year as judicial officers in a bid to fill up the vacancies and deal with the mounting backlog, will also come into effect. As many as 2,500 lawyers will move their base from Patiala house to Saket court complex and extra facilities would be provided to them for smooth functioning of the court hearings.

A special bus service is also in the offing and it will start from Patiala house to Saket court complex so that lawyers and litigants have no trouble in commuting.


Apart from having the best infrastructure in place, Saket court complex has also focused on security arrangements. Around 50 CCTV cameras have been placed in and out of the complex with a recording capacity of three days. The daily recordings will be monitored by the staff and all the entrances will be strictly monitored.


Saket court complex, that has been constructed by Ahluwalia Contracts, consists of a seven-storey centrally airconditioned building with 80 court rooms, 92 chambers for the judges. Moreover, separate towers with 666 lawyers chambers and 128 residential houses for judges have been made. Two bar rooms and a library for the judges and lawyers have also been provided. A temporary lock-up has been made for the undertrials till a permanent judicial lock-up is constructed.

 http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Room-for-justice-Saket-Court-opens-/articleshow/6453385.cms#ixzz0xwVngjg2

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Mother kills son by electric shock as he opposes her 'affair'

Mother kills son by electric shock as he opposes her 'affair'

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/hyderabad/Mother-kills-son-by-electric-shock-as-he-opposes-her-affair-/articleshow/6451500.cms
 

HYDERABAD: A woman allegedly gave electric shock to her 13-year-old son in Nalgonda district resulting in his death after he objected to her "illicit" relationship, police said on Saturday.
The incident occurred at Damarchala village of Miryalguda Mandal of the district on Friday, they said.

According to police, the boy was tied to a pole near his house and his 32-year-old mother allegedly held a live electric wire to his body resulting in his death.

A senior police officer quoting Damarchala villagers and sarpanch said K Shivamani was reportedly angry when her son opposed her alleged illicit affair. The woman, on the other hand, refuted the allegation and claimed that her son harassed her daily. She said the boy was neither studying nor doing any work and was indulging in illegal acts, police said. "Following a complaint by the villagers, police have registered a case of murder against Shivamani, who has been taken into custody," a senior police officer
said.

No fish for dinner? Woman goes to cops to get 498a dowry case registration- misuse of dowry law already under Govt SC scanner. Punish the misusers

No fish for dinner? Woman goes to cops to get 498a dowry case registration- misuse of dowry law already under Govt SC scanner. Punish the misusers

MUMBAI: Ego clashes, tiffs and the like are par for the course in any family life where members learn to sidestep or live with the occasional discordant note. Or so we are told. But these days, even minor family spats are being played out at police stations across the city with angry wives, husbands, fathers-in-law, mothers-in-law, aunts and uncles slapping grave sections of the IPC on each other.
In one recent case, the bone of contention threatening to break a marriage was fish. An irate man approached a police station in the western suburbs to file a complaint against his daughter-in-law under the Domestic Violence Act for refusing to prepare fish at home.

An equally angry daughter-in-law then evoked Section 498-A of the IPC claiming she was being harassed for dowry by her in-laws.
"The father liked eating fish, but the daughter-in-law was averse to the smell, and refused to prepare it at home. So he claimed he was being harassed," said a cop who ultimately played counsellor and sent the warring family home after they arrived at a compromise. "There was nothing stopping the father from ordering fish from a restaurant after his daughter-in-law left the house for work. But the situation got out of hand and became an ego tussle, with the father insisting that his daughter-in-law prepare it and serve it to the family."


While the incident is indeed chuckle-worthy, cops are not amused, as this law is meant for women who have suffered genuine abuse in the hands of their husbands or in-laws. "These are grave charges and it is not right that they are being evoked for minor tussles," said a police official.


Take the case of another Mumbai housewife who approached the police demanding they take action against her husband for not taking her out, prohibiting her from drinking alcohol, or gifting her expensive clothes. The police try to resolve minor disputes through counselling sessions. "However, the outcome depends on the people concerned. All we can do is offer suggestions," said a social worker.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/No-fish-for-dinner-Man-goes-to-cops/articleshow/6448525.cms#ixzz0xtbSpzi4

Divorce at 70? Plan some spiritual growth, says Supreme Court

Divorce at 70? Plan some spiritual growth, says Supreme Court

Saturday, Aug 28, 2010

At the age of 70, it’s time to go on a pilgrimage to Hardwar and be divorced from the material world, instead of being engaged in a prolonged legal battle for divorce.

These are the words of the Supreme Court for an aged Juhu couple, seeking separation under the Hindu Marriage Act.

Making a bid to make them conscious that the age is catching up, apex court judges on Thursday counseled petitioner Veena, 70, and her husband, Govardhan Kapoor, 75, to share the roof. However, the court suggested that if the two wish, they may keep themselves separated by a wooden partition.

Veena doesn’t want to share the apartment with Govardhan and contested a Bombay high court judgment last year that made her share the accommodation as per a mutual agreement between them in the divorce case.

The couple married in Delhi on April 26, 1969. They have two sons — Navin, 36, who lives in America, and Sachin, 33, lives with his father.

In 1981, the couple started litigation after Govardhan suffered heavy losses in his business. Charges and counter charges ensued and Govardhan alleged that his wife had an extra-marital affair.

Govardhan’s case got stronger after Sachin testified in favour of the allegation.

While Govardhan moved a law suit seeking an injunction against Veena from dispossessing him from the flat, she sought a direction asking him not to enter the house.

Govardhan agreed to the term that Veena is the owner of the flat but he would live there with certain conditions that included installing separate electric meters and demarcating territory with a wooden partition.

But Veena’s lawyer DK Garg on Thursday told a bench headed by justice GS Singhvi that she couldn’t be expected to live under the same roof particularly when she had been accused of being in an adulterous relationship. She lamented that even her son had also sided with his father.

Disposing of her petition, the court said: “You can’t throw out the aged husband, but you can get the son out.”

NCW to ask Home Ministry to frame guidelines on dowry cases

NCW to ask Home Ministry to frame guidelines on dowry cases

New Delhi, Aug 27 (PTI) National Commission for Women (NCW) today said it will ask the Union Home Ministry to frame guidelines for dealing with cases of dowry harassment.

Though the Commission did not favour tinkering with IPC Section 498-A which acts as a protection for women from dowry harassment, officials said, the NCW was of the view that some guidelines should be formulated by the Home Ministry in this regard."There is no need for an amendment. There is no need for dilution. What is required is a better sensitisation of police officials while dealing with such cases,"an official said. The remarks come against the backdrop of a recent Supreme Court observation asking the government to take a relook at the anti-dowry law to curb its misuse. The comments on dowry law were made during an NCW workshop on suitable marriage age for girls."Distinction needs to be made between child marriage which is forced by parents and others types which is on own volition of young adults, but parents oppose it on various grounds like family honour."Therefore, we could examine the issue of having a cutoff age which can to a limited extent give relief to those couples who are booked under various legal provisions and forced to live in nari niketan etc,"noted a release issued by NCW spokesperson on the views expressed in the workshop."Boys and girls should have the same age of marriage -- 18 years -- rather than having disparity of age because there is no scientific or biological reasons to keep the distinction of 18 and 21,"the release said. The workshop felt that what was required was the immediate and effective implementation of the compulsory registration of marriages.

http://www.indiareport.com/India-usa-uk-news/latest-news/887878/National/1/20/1

Unemployed man can't be forced to pay maintenance to wife ,there is no legal presumption that behind every failed marriage there is either dowry demand or domestic violence. Marriages do fail for various other reasons.:Delhi HC

Unemployed man can't be forced to pay maintenance to wife,there is no legal presumption that behind every failed marriage there is either dowry demand or domestic violence.  Marriages do fail for various other reasons:HC

New Delhi, Aug 27, (PTI):

An unemployed man cannot be forced to pay maintenance to his estranged wife, the Delhi High Court on Friday ruled saying that in an era of equality of sexes a person cannot be compelled to maintain others if spouses are on an equal footing.

"Under prevelant laws, a husband is supposed to maintain his unearning spouse out of the income he earns. No law provides that a husband has to maintain his wife, living seperately from him, irrespective of the fact whether he earns or not," Justice S N Dhingra said.


The court passed the order while setting aside the order of a family court which had directed the husband, who was unemployed, to pay a maintenance of Rs 5,000 to his wife.


The court said the wife, who was equally qualified as her husband and was working in an MNC, cannot ask for maintenance from her husband who lost his job.


"Court cannot tell the husband that he should beg, borrow or steal but give maintenance to his wife, more so when the husband and wife are almost qualified and capable of earning and both of them claimed to be gainfully employed before marriage," the court said while granting relief to the husband who was an NRI working in Angola in Africa.


"We are living in an era of equality of sexes. The Constitution provides equal treatment to be given irrespective of sex, caste and creed. An unemployed husband who is holding an MBA degree cannot be treated differently to an unemployed wife who is also holding an MBA degree.


"Since both are on equal footing, one cannot be asked to maintain the other unless one is unemployed and the other is employed," the court said.

http://www.deccanherald.com/content/91906/unemployed-man-cant-forced-pay.html

also @

http://www.indianexpress.com/news/unemployed-man-cant-be-forced-to-pay-alimony-hc/673385/

http://www.hindustantimes.com/Unemployed-man-can-t-pay-maintenance/Article1-592789.aspx

http://news.in.msn.com/national/article.aspx?cp-documentid=4314490

Friday, August 27, 2010

Girlfriend can't be called kin, says Bombay HC

Girlfriend can't be called kin, says HC

MUMBAI: With live-in relations being accorded sanctity by law, can a girlfriend be a relative, the Bombay high court wondered on Thursday. The court was hearing an application filed by a woman, Sunita, who had been named in a dowry harassment case. She had been dragged into the case filed by another woman, who claimed that Sunita was her husband's girlfriend and had accused her of cruelty.
A division bench of Justice A M Khanwilkar and Justice U D Salvi, in an interim order, stayed the criminal charges in the case against her till further orders.
Section 498 A of the Indian Penal Code deals with cruelty to a married woman by her husband or his relatives. The cruelty could also be for failing to meet the unlawful demands of property or valuable security. Cruelty could refer to the conduct of a husband or in-laws that is likely to drive a woman to commit suicide or cause grave injury to herself.
Earlier, the Supreme Court, in a landmark order, had said that a girlfriend cannot be treated as a "relative'' in a 498 A case. The apex court had held that a concubine or a mistress cannot be charged under Section 498A. By no stretch of imagination can a girlfriend or even a concubine... be a relative. The word relative brings within its purview a status that can be conferred either by blood or marriage or adoption, the SC bench had remarked.
(Names changed to protect identity

-We are fools expecting Justice from these kind of Judges-HC suspends five judges caught copying during LLM exam

HC suspends five judges caught copying during LLM exam

TNN, Aug 27, 2010, 04.25am IST

HYDERABAD: Five judges belonging to the state subordinate judiciary were suspended by the Andhra Pradesh high court on Wednesday for allegedly copying while writing their LLM exams at the Arts College of Kakatiya University in Warangal.

The incident took place on Tuesday. One of the judges was found copying from a law book hidden under his answersheet. Written slips and pages torn from textbooks were seized from other judges. The copying material was confiscated by university invigilators who stopped the judges from writing any further.

The judges were doing LLM under the distance module from Kakatiya University as the degree would help them get increments.
Those placed under suspension include K Ajitsimha Rao, senior civil judge, Ranga Reddy district, M Kistappa, principal senior civil judge, Anantapur, P Vijayendar Reddy, second additional district judge, Ranga Reddy district, M Srinivasachary, senior civil judge in Bapatla of Guntur district and Hanumantha Rao, additional junior civil judge in Warangal.

According to the university's additional controller of examinations, the candidates were taking exams when a team made a surprise visit.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/HC-suspends-five-judges-caught-copying-during-LLM-exam/articleshow/6443036.cms#ixzz0xl9aQ6Te

SC quashes its own judgement in dowry death case

SC quashes its own judgement in dowry death case

New Delhi, Aug 26 (PTI) In a rare departure from convention, the Supreme Court has set aside its own order passed in a dowry death case in 2008 on the ground that the accused husband and mother-in-law were not heard at the time of quashing their remission of sentence in the case.It held that the remission rules of Madhya Pradesh government gave the benefit of remission (reduction in sentence) for the accused as their sentence was only for seven years and not for life imprisonment.A Bench of Justices R V Raveendran and D K Jain set aside the November 11, 2008, judgement of a Bench headed by Justice C K Thakker (since retired) in the review petition filed by the aggrieved mother-in-law Reshma Devi and husband Jolly Singla who were sentenced to seven years RI for the dowry death of the latter's wife Anju Rani. In a review petition which filed after the original appeal is dismissed, the apex court rarely modifies its earlier judgement. In the instant case, the earlier Bench of the apex court had quashed the remission of the two accused on the ground that Madhya Pradesh government's rule did not provide any remission of sentence in serious offences like dowry death case. Aggrieved by the earlier decision, the accused filed a review petition on the ground that they were not made parties in the SLP filed by the deceased's father and that the apex court had erroneously held that they were not entitled to remission for the serious offence of dowry death. Upholding the review petition, the present apex court bench said "there is considerable force in both the contentions. Accused no.2 (mother-in-law) was not a party to the appeal before this court. But while disposing of the appeal, this Court directed that if she had been granted the benefit under the government Order dated 14.8.2002, she also has to surrender to custody till the period of seven years is over. "Obviously as accused no.2 was not a party and as she was not heard, no observation could have been made in the judgment of this Court nor any direction could have been given to her detriment, that too in regard to a matter which was not the subject matter of the appeal," the apex court said. Interpreting the state's remission rules, the present apex court bench further said the convicts were entitled to the benefit of remission as they were sentenced only for seven years. It pointed out that the remission benefits would not have been applicable to them if they were to serve a life sentence.

http://ibnlive.in.com/generalnewsfeed/news/sc-quashes-its-own-judgement-in-dowry-death-case/265362.html

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New Delhi, Aug 26 (PTI) In a rare departure from convention, the Supreme Court has set aside its own order passed in a dowry death case in 2008 on the ground that the accused husband and mother-in-law were not heard at the time of quashing their remission of sentence in the case.
It held that the remission rules of Madhya Pradesh government gave the benefit of remission (reduction in sentence) for the accused as their sentence was only for seven years and not for life imprisonment.
A Bench of Justices R V Raveendran and D K Jain set aside the November 11, 2008, judgement of a Bench headed by Justice C K Thakker (since retired) in the review petition filed by the aggrieved mother-in-law Reshma Devi and husband Jolly Singla who were sentenced to seven years RI for the dowry death of the latter's wife Anju Rani.

 

http://www.ptinews.com/news/904586_SC-quashes-its-own-judgement-in-dowry-death-case

The New SYMBOL and CURRENCY of MALE HATRED - MANDRIES

 

The New SYMBOL and CURRENCY of MALE HATRED - MANDRIES

 

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Can't say husband impotent without proof: Guj HC

Can't say husband impotent without proof: Guj HC

Ahmedabad, August 25:  Gujarat High court hearing a divorce case has rejected the family court ruling granting divorce to a couple on the ground of impotency.

However, the high court upheld the family court order of divorce between the same couple on grounds of desertion and cruelty.

One Rajendra Dalal had challenged a family court's order granting divorce to his wife Dharmishta on the ground of impotency and cruelty, in the Gujarat High Court.

A division bench of Justice Jayant Patel and Abhilasha Kumari, last week, rejected the man's appeal, saying that the petition was devoid of merits.

The court, however, observed that there was no conclusive evidence to prove that the man was impotent or the marriage was not consummated. "The finding of the Family Court on this point, therefore, cannot be endorsed," it observed.

It said that the decree of dissolution of marriage has been passed by the Family Court under the provisions of Section 13(1) of the Hindu Marriage Act, on the ground of cruelty and desertion and not under Section 12 (impotency).

Also, the Family Court, while granting divorce had recorded cogent findings on the ground of desertion and cruelty against the man, the court added.

(with PTI inputs)

http://www.zopag.com/news/cant-say-husband-impotent-without-proof-guj-hc/25786.html

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HC: Can’t say husband impotent without proof

Ahmedabad, August 25, PTI:

The Gujarat High Court has observed that specific medical proof was required to determine whether a husband was impotent or his marriage cannot be consummated when a wife seeks divorce on this count.

A division bench of the HC comprising Justices Jayant Patel and Abhilasha Kumari has set aside the grounds for a verdict passed by a family court vis-à-vis a divorce petition. In the case involving an earthquake victim husband and his wife, the family court had granted divorce on the grounds of impotency and consequent ‘cruelty’.


Rejecting a family court ruling that granted divorce to a couple on the ground of impotency, the HC, however, upheld the family court order of divorce between the same couple on grounds of desertion and cruelty. Rajendra Dalal had challenged the family court’s order granting divorce to his wife Dharmishta on the ground of impotency and cruelty. It said the decree of dissolution of marriage has been passed by the family court under provisions of Section 13(1) of the Hindu Marriage Act, on ground of cruelty and desertion and not under Section 12 (impotency).

http://www.deccanherald.com/content/91446/hc-cant-say-husband-impotent.html

Non-MBBS docs process claims 80% Of Those Screening Medical Papers Have Ayurveda Or Homoeopathy Degrees

Non-MBBS docs process claims 80% Of Those Screening Medical Papers Have Ayurveda Or Homoeopathy Degrees

Sumitra Deb Roy | TNN


    The spat between the medical fraternity and public sector insurance companies over the cashless health facility and standardized rate card prepared by the General Insurance Public Sector Association (Gipsa) has seen many skeletons tumble out of the proverbial cupboard. But the one that has got everyone sitting up and taking notice is that aside from a small panel of MBBS graduates and doctors, most of the Third Party Administrators (TPAs) who process consumers’ claims for insurance companies are ayurveda and homoeopathy graduates who have no background in allopathy. When in doubt the internet comes to their rescue, enlightening them on medical facts.
    Calls to several TPAs have confirmed that the first level of screening of a patient’s medical papers—giving information on diagnosis, treatment and hospitalisation—is carried out by doctors who do not have an MBBS degree. A senior TPA official put the percentage to anything between 85-90%. “Ayurveda and homoeopathy graduates form up to 90% of doctors scrutinizing papers in most of the TPA offices,’’ he said.
    A medical officer from Medi Assist TPA said that of the 30-odd doctors examining medical papers in his organisation, around 25 are from nonallopathic backgrounds. “We do have a panel of senior allopathic doctors who look into major surgeries,’’ said the doctor. A medical officer from Paramount TPA said none of the graduates are specially trained to scrutinise surgeries. “A bit of modern medicine and surgery is also taught to us during our course. That comes handy here,’’ he said, admitting that many of them use the internet to crack tough medical terms.
    Designated as medical officers, recent graduates who have completed a Bachelor of Ayurvedic Medicine and Surgery (BAMS) or Bachelor of Homoeopathic Medicine and Surgery (BHMS) see this as a promising career option. TPAs argue that no MBBS graduate is willing to work for an annual pay of Rs 2-3 lakh.
    Spokesperson for TPA Association S K Mahapatra said: “For any MBBS doctor, this job will not be the first preference. Ayurveda and homoeopathy doctors have been clearing claims for years without a hitch. More than 18 lakh claims are settled
    by these doctors annually,
    including 350 cashless procedures every day. There is no reason to doubt their proficiency.’’ Many of the top positions are occupied by BAMS and BHMS graduates. “We have learned over years of experience,’’ said an assistant general manager of a Delhi-based TPA who has an ayurvedic background. “More than 90% of the claims are simple surgeries. For the rest we have a special panel of senior MBBS doctors.’’

Changes in the dowry law ( IPC 498a ) will shut out frivolous complaints – commoners’ viewpoint

Changes in the dowry law will shut out frivolous complaints

The Supreme Court’s decision to ask the government to reconsider the anti-dowry law — Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code — is welcome (Change dowry law: SC to govt, August 15). It is well-known that most dowry-related

accusations invariably lead to the imprisoning of the husband and his relatives. The draconian law does not have any space for judicial inquiry and relies solely on complaints. It should be withdrawn. There is an urgent need to re-examine other anti-dowry laws too, which are no better. At the same time, one wonders why courts do not put women complainants in jail for fraudulent cases that are filed only to harass husbands. There have been several instances when women have filed the cases, made their husbands and relatives appear before the courts and then have either failed to pursue them or withdrawn the cases later. Imagine the mental and physical torture that husbands have been made to undergo! Why can’t the courts jail the complainants for misleading the police, the judiciary and people?

Devinder Sharma, via email

 

http://www.hindustantimes.com/rssfeed/lettertoeditor/Changes-in-the-dowry-law-will-shut-out-frivolous-complaints/Article1-590871.aspx

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

DIVORCE-Financial Planning management advice for HUSBANDS

DIVORCE-Financial Planning management advice for HUSBANDS - NDTV PROFIT-Lets talk money@23aug10

 

 

No sympathy for habitual rent defaulter: Delhi HC

No sympathy for habitual rent defaulter: Delhi HC

PTI

Mon, Aug 23 05:14 PM

New Delhi, Aug 23 (PTI) No sympathy can be shown to a tenant who is a habitual defaulter in paying rent, the Delhi High court has said and asked a business man to vacate the NDMC premises. "Every licensee or allotee and even an unauthorised occupant is obliged to pay the monthly license fee so long as he is using the premises and no undue sympathy can be shown to those who wilfully and contemptuously commit persistent defaults in payment of periodical rents," Justice Kailash Gambhir said in a judgement recently.

"The petitioner(Kumar) was a habitual defaulter in the payment of rents/damages and consequently no amount of discretion can be exercised by this court under Article 226 of the Constitution of India in favour of the petitioner," Justice Gambhir also said. He dismissed a petition filed by one Vijay Kumar who challenged the New Delhi Municipal Council''s decision in rejecting his application for regularisation of allotment under its 1997 policy and the eviction order passed by the Estate Officer.

The Court, however, granted 15 days'' time to Kumar to vacate the premises-UG-40, Palika Place, R K Ashram Marg and asked the civic agency not to take coercive action against him. The court upheld NDMC''s decision refusing to regularise Kumnar''s shop under the 1997 policy and rejected his argument that the civic agency has adopted a pick-and-chose policy while regularising the allotment of shops.

According to NDMC, Kumar was alloted the shop in 1992 for five years and his application for renewal of his licence in respect of his shop was rejected in 1998 on account of non- payment of rents. The petitioner was in arrears of licence fee/rent to the tune of Rs 1,32,431 as on November 15, 2007, the date on which the Estate Officer had passed an order for eviction of the shop, as per NDMC. Challenging the Estate Officer''s order, Kumar had filed a case before the District Judge who dismissed his petition in July 2009 and upheld the Estate Officer''s decision for eviction.

http://ibnlive.in.com/generalnewsfeed/news/no-sympathy-for-habitual-rent-defaulter-delhi-hc/255198.html

Is India geared up for sexual harassment policies?

Is India geared up for sexual harassment policies?

The recent incidents which had names matching the likes of Penguin’s Canada chief executive David Davidar and Hewlett-Packard’s global CEO Mark Hurd has once again ignited the issue of sexual harassment in the global markets and it is indeed very interesting to note that how much geared up are the Indian companies in the same regards.

While the issue is at very nascent stages as far as India inc. goes but companies like Pepsi, LG, Maruti already have an policy in place to ensure that the company is at its toes for the safety of its employees.

It is to be mentioned here that according to Pavan Bhatia, ED-HR, PepsiCo India, the policy that is being set up by the global cola major, Pepsi is based as per Supreme Court’s guidelines on sexual harassment and there is also a committee for the issue consisting of 12 senior management executives at Pepsi, in case someone lodges a complaint.

In fact, the committee formed by the company appoints at least five members to duly investigate the matter and takes decisions accordingly.

It may be noted here that while Maruti Suzuki claims to have had no instance of sexual harassment in the company for the last 25 years, but the company has still formulated a robust Sexual Harassment Policy which will be announced to the company employees in the coming days.

 

http://www.topnews.in/india-geared-sexual-harassment-policies-2270599

Live-in Conundrum - Watch Tower: Walk-in and walk-out!

Live-in Conundrum - Watch Tower: Walk-in and walk-out!

India is a country, which is slowly, opening its doors for western ideas and lifestyles and one of the most crucial episodes amongst it, is the concept of live in relationship.


The Supreme Court also opined that a man and woman living together without marriage cannot be construed as an offence.
"When two adult people want to live together what is the offence. Does it amount to an offence? Living together is not an offence. It cannot be an offence," a three judge bench of Chief Justice K G Balakrishnan, Deepak Verma and B S Chauhan observed.The court said even Lord Krishna and Radha lived together according to mythology without marriage.


The apex court said there was no law which prohibits live-in relationship or pre-marital sex.Due to marital disputes counter cases are filed by both the parties and these criminal cases take years to decide. Large number of cases, complaints filed under the anti-dowry law are either false or exaggerated. To avoid these complications, in metro cities more and more people are going for live in relations. In live-in relations there is no legal commitment between the parties, therefore the Supreme Court itself which has given strict directions to all the State governments of Indian States to enact laws to make the Registration of Marriage Compulsory process in a Valid Marriage irrespective of the religion of the parties. Let only the properly registered marriages recognized as legally valid marriage.


The recent decision of Delhi High Court on criminal proceedings initiated by the girlfriend / live-in partner of a London-based solicitor Alok Kumar, based on his refusal to marry her, Hon'ble Delhi High Court has ruled that, partner in a live-in relationship can walk out of it at any point of time without any legal consequence and neither of the partners can complain of infidelity if one ditches the other.
Justice Shiv Narayan Dhingra said, Live-in relationship is a walk-in and walk-out relationship. There are no strings attached in this relationship, nor does this relationship create any legal bond between the parties. People who chose to have live-in relationship cannot complain of infidelity or immorality as live-in relationships are also known to have been between a married man and an unmarried woman or vice versa. Kumar is understood to have been a married man with a family in London while he was in his five-year live-in relationship with his girlfriend. The girlfriend is a divorcee with a child.

While granting relief to Alok Kumar, the Court said that the FIR should be quashed to prevent misuse of the criminal justice system for personal vengeance. The girlfriend had filed the FIR with the police at the Indira Gandhi International Airport in New Delhi following an altercation between her and Alok Kumar at the Departure Terminal. The FIR listed charges against Alok Kumar for outraging the girlfriends modesty, committing mischief against her and charges of rape. The girlfriend had also taken possession of Alok Kumar's passport by snatching it from him.

The Court stated, a contract of living together is renewed every day by the parties and can be terminated by either of the parties without consent of the other party and one party can walk out at will at any time. This is a clear signal on the legal ramifications for those who want and those who do not want to enter into this kind of relationship of walk-in and walk-out.

But the Supreme Court got an opportunity towards the lively debate on legitimacy of the ˜live in relationship as well as legitimacy of kids given birth to out of this kind of relationship, the Top court has decided the fact that such children are not necessarily unlawful. The Supreme Court has additionally held that such kids possess a right to inherit the properties left behind by one of the partners in this kind of relationship.

If a man as well as a lady are living under the same roof and living together for quite a few years, there will be a presumption under Section 114 of the Evidence Act that they live as husband and wife and the children born to them will not be illegitimate, said a bench of Justices P Sathasivam and BS Chauhan. The bench said the law presumes in favour of marriage and against concubine.


Despite the judgement of the court on case to case basis it is high time, Government comes out with a legislation that brings trans perency in the live in relationship. The story of the individual cases underline the fact that live in relation is not merely a contract between two individual but new foreign element to our existing culture supported by institution of marriage. So this relation is very near informal legitimacy of husband and wife, which has its ramification to the children born out of this relation. Each legislation has its root in Indian culture and social customs, the new legislation should evaluate that aspect while incorporating new changes of the dynamic society. At this juncture this matter is open to debate and needs immediate attention of Government.

Nitin Saxena

http://www.centralchronicle.com/viewnews.asp?articleID=45371