Friday, March 11, 2011

Blatant and flagrant Misuse of 498a dowry harassment laws a stark reality- Anatomical busting of false feminists tactics ! Drilled wide open

Blatant and flagrant Misuse of 498a dowry harassment laws a stark reality- Anatomical busting of false feminists tactics ! Drilled wide open

Shonee kapoor drills into feminists tactics and lies - LokSabha TV 10 March 2011


Is the Apex court legalising DOWRY giving !


A woman and her family members cannot be treated as accused under the Dowry Prohibition Act for giving dowry at the time of marriage, the Supreme Court has said. A bench of Justices HS Bedi and CK Prasad upheld the Delhi High Court verdict that quashed a criminal case against a girl stating a dowry harassment victim was protected under the law and, could not be charged under the Act.

Two separate benches of the Delhi HC had taken divergent views on the issue. While Justice SN Dhingra (since retd) held the woman and her family could be prosecuted for giving dowry, Justice Ajit Bharihoke had said it could not be done.

The latter judgment held that section 7 of the Dowry Prohibition Act provided protection to the person who was a complainant under the law. Section 3 of the Act makes giving, accepting or abetting dowry an offence.

The SC order clarifies the legal position regarding the culpability of an alleged dowry-giver bride. It dismissed the appeal against Justice Bharihoke’s verdict filed by the husband who claimed that the judge could not have delivered it as the law was settled by Justice Dhingra.

The bench, however, dismissed the petition and said, “The girl is a victim and you want her to be prosecuted also. Then 498A (dowry harassment section) would be rendered nugatory.”

Vijary Aggarwal counsel for the woman who faced the case for giving dowry, contended there should be harmonious construction of the Act.

Justice Bharihoke had in October 2010 quashed a metropolitan magistrate’s order that directed registration of a case under the Act against a woman. The case was registered following a complaint made before the court by the husband.


Full text of SC order

Petition(s) for Special Leave to Appeal (Crl) No(s).1339-1340/2011
(From the judgement and order dated 20/10/2010 in WP No.
501/2010 & CRLMA No. 3921/2010 of The HIGH COURT OF DELHI AT N.
SAMEER SAXENA Petitioner(s)
(With appln(s) for exemption from filing c/c of the impugned
Date: 07/03/2011 These Petitions were called on for hearing today.
For Petitioner(s) Mr. Gagan Preet Singh, Adv.
Mr. Karan Bir singh, Adv.
Mr. Rameshwar Prasad Goyal, Adv.
For Respondent(s) Mr. Vijay Aggarwal, Adv.
Mr. Rajnish Kumar singh, Adv.
Mr. Tanmay Mehta, Adv.
Ms. Manjusha Wadhwa, Adv.
UPON hearing counsel the Court made the following

Heard the learned counsel for the parties.
We see no reason to interfere in the Special
Leave Petitions which are, accordingly,





Cases against women

Delhi police issues circular in 2007 asking its officers to register cases under the Dowry Act against women who marry despite dowry demand

Mar 19, 2010: Delhi court orders case against a woman saying she had willfully given dowry

Dec 4, 2008: Noida court orders case against woman.

Don't lose heart after an early divorce – The Insight

Don't lose heart after an early divorce

Divashri Sinha,MUMBAI MIRROR,Mar 7, 2011, 11.51am IST

Life doesn't come to an end if you get divorced in your 30s. Here's how you can pull yourself together

Find yourself at the end of a marriage, single and emotionally-stranded in your late 30s? While at some ages it's easier to bounce back from upheavals, the late 30s and early 40s are not the easiest in these matters. The silver lining, however, is that it's a lifealtering event which, if played well, can lead you to a happier place ultimately. The trick is to put one foot in front of the other and move on to making a full recovery. Marriage counsellor and therapist, Manju Jain debriefs you on things you must get in order, if you find yourself at this difficult crossroad.

Heart first

The death of a relationship, no matter how long its duration, is always intense and difficult. In your 20s and early 30s, it is easier to wrap up an intimate relationship. For a middle-aged adult with multiple responsibilities, this process magnifies manifold.

- Take the time to grieve, heal and restore. However, there will come a time when you'll have to accept facts and just get on with life. If you have children, they will force you to keep your focus in check.

- While it is an immensely overwhelming feeling, terms like "my life is over" or "I've lost everything" are very powerful and have a strong impact on how you feel. Recognise that this isn't factually true and work on it from there.

- Your emotional vulnerability and insecurities need to be addressed. To begin with, get a good listener. Create a support squad of your closest friends and family who won't mind providing you with emotional support, professional guidance and ongoing inspiration. Realise that you're not the first person to go through this.

- Avoid discussing your issues with or in front of your children. They have their own issues to deal with.


In the end, it doesn't matter whose fault it was. Don't fester over revenge and orchestrate devious plans of ruining your ex's life. Negative energy needs to be dispelled even though forgetting and forgiving may sound like a tall order. Concentrate your energy on clearing your mind space. Don't focus on anger, focus on yourself. De-clutter.

- While you may no longer be the one half of a couple any longer, you are still 100 per cent the same person you were. Go back and rediscover yourself. Make a trip, preferably alone. After a long spell of marriage, finding the courage and independence to travel alone will give you the confidence to survive as a singleton.

- Do what you loved to do before you got married. Many people, especially by the time they reach their middle age, have put themselves aside for the sake of their families and given up on things they used to love. If you once loved to dance or paint or ride a motorcycle, do it again.

- Focus on your professional graph to ensure you don't get sucked into a downward depression cycle.

- Get counselling if you need it. Divorce is traumatic so if you find that you are having problems sleeping, are depressed or have feelings of low self-esteem, get help. While these are common things to go through after, they can become a serious matter if they begin to interfere with your life.

Get back in the game

Getting back into the dating game can be rough because you have been out of it for a while. It can feel daunting. The thing with going into long droughts after a divorce is that, the more you prolong getting back in the game, the tougher you are making it for yourself.

- Do things that make you feel beautiful and don't bother trying to compete with younger men and their trimmer behinds. Embrace your beauty and wear your accomplishments proudly.

- Having been through a marriage, you will be very clear about what you are looking for. Don't rush into anything for the fear of being alone. So whether it is a meaningful long relationship or a short term casual association, you will have to make the effort of starting off, even if the first few turn out to be bumpy. Get a group of friends together and slowly start getting yourself out there.

Body beautiful

Over the years, people can let their body image slide and become sloppy. Feeling good is a lot about looking good.

- Hit the gym. Don't try to achieve miracles for your body. But it will keep you physically active and release the healthy feel good endorphins. Get a manicure, pedicure, and a snazzy new wardrobe.

- Don't let age, work, stress and children be the excuse for you to neglect your health. It's common for people going through a divorce to eat too much or too little. Eat a well-balanced diet and get at least 30 minutes of exercise for three to five days a week.

- Wear make up to work, do your hair well. Tone down the scruff and create a positive body image.

Money matters

After all the legalities are done away with, ensure you have a grip on your financial condition and assets. After years of shared bank accounts and joint ownership of assets, this process is particularly painful. But make sure you don't feel cheated of your rightful share.

- Get your household finances in order. If your spouse took care of balancing the cheque book and paying the bills when you were married, now you need to be able to run your own finances successfully.

- Keep a record of when certain bills, such as credit card bills and utility bills, are due, so that you won't be lagging behind in making payments.

- Keep all important finance-related paperwork, such as bank statements and insurance policies together in a drawer, where they can easily be found. Following a divorce, being able to manage your money wisely is pivotal to getting your life in order.